tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post1023691983819677203..comments2023-08-03T21:07:18.433+10:00Comments on Too Fond of Books: Death and the 7 year oldKathyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-51899968707330714882012-08-21T22:09:08.121+10:002012-08-21T22:09:08.121+10:00There really isn't :-( When my friend was dyin...There really isn't :-( When my friend was dying (she had a brain tumour) my eldest, then 7 herself, asked me over and over why it was happening and how unfair it was. I had nothing to tell her but: I don't know, and yes it is. My friend herself, when we were visiting one day, helped my girl the most of all; she hugged her and told her not to worry, that everyone has their time and it's all in God's hands. Reduced all of us to a teary wreck but we held onto it in the months that followed.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-38716753410340101812012-08-21T22:01:34.830+10:002012-08-21T22:01:34.830+10:00Deep thoughts for such a little person, but unders...Deep thoughts for such a little person, but understandable considering the life experience.<br />We had two of our guinea pigs die today, and my daughter cried saying "Why did it have to happen?" there is no good answer to that question. EssentiallyJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02372695554793237026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-37368747631950627642012-08-21T21:30:53.771+10:002012-08-21T21:30:53.771+10:00It's so hard. Much, much harder than answering...It's so hard. Much, much harder than answering questions about bodies and sex, which I thought would be challenging but actually turned out to be really natural and incremental. Death is the big, inescapable, difficult truth that we have to gently guide our children to understanding, much as it would be wonderful to not have to.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-8416020281271968492012-08-21T21:28:19.248+10:002012-08-21T21:28:19.248+10:00Thank you :-)Thank you :-)Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-29066894382013045072012-08-21T21:27:47.147+10:002012-08-21T21:27:47.147+10:00She'd moved on and was sparky and upbeat. I, o...She'd moved on and was sparky and upbeat. I, on the other hand, felt pensive for days afterwards.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-27481040057857284972012-08-21T21:26:45.291+10:002012-08-21T21:26:45.291+10:00Thank you, I appreciate that :-)Thank you, I appreciate that :-)Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-86720946637737572442012-08-21T21:25:54.849+10:002012-08-21T21:25:54.849+10:00Dumbo is a sad movie! I know it ends all right but...Dumbo is a sad movie! I know it ends all right but there are some really heartrending moments in it.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-62529688577245233712012-08-21T21:24:44.649+10:002012-08-21T21:24:44.649+10:00There's a level at which I have *still* not ac...There's a level at which I have *still* not accepted fully that my mother will one day die, so I get what you mean completely!Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-9905829924020993052012-08-21T21:23:32.976+10:002012-08-21T21:23:32.976+10:00I do too!I do too!Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-72846683528919137432012-08-21T21:22:57.445+10:002012-08-21T21:22:57.445+10:00Yes, separation is like death for the litte ones. ...Yes, separation is like death for the litte ones. Conversely, death is so painful because it's the ultimate separation...Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594937856333216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-73917245791040638692012-08-21T21:13:33.978+10:002012-08-21T21:13:33.978+10:00You handled this conversation so well. I have noti...You handled this conversation so well. I have noticed that lately I make an effort to avoid conversations about death or dying near Miss 3. I am in fear of bursting that precious little bubble but it is coming, I can feel it.Carlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02383863720375818688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-16857740950323864392012-08-21T18:20:06.830+10:002012-08-21T18:20:06.830+10:00It's quite a challenge for our little ones to ...It's quite a challenge for our little ones to understand. I remember a similar conversation with my mother around that age. You handled it beautifully. carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14402338064127467604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-33539602181227616312012-08-21T17:39:00.741+10:002012-08-21T17:39:00.741+10:00Hoping miss 7 felt better when she woke.
I'm ...Hoping miss 7 felt better when she woke. <br />I'm not so sure i could have handle this type of conversation as good as you did. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09513713291577095255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-78236405774545332032012-08-21T16:28:08.461+10:002012-08-21T16:28:08.461+10:00A beautiful response you've given to her on su...A beautiful response you've given to her on such a hard topic. A precious post xxSharihttp://www.familysurvivalcoach.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-54941942461082001532012-08-21T16:16:22.301+10:002012-08-21T16:16:22.301+10:00You handled that so well! I hope I can deal with i...You handled that so well! I hope I can deal with it as beautifully as you did when my daughter is old enough to inking and asking about such things. I remember when I was little I used to hate the movie Dumbo because the idea of losing my Mum was so terrible and it just made me too sad.Kylie Purtellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00185153539010825877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-57178546175605254412012-08-21T13:29:50.581+10:002012-08-21T13:29:50.581+10:00Oh such a hard conversation to have. To be honest ...Oh such a hard conversation to have. To be honest any little child talking about death gets my tears rolling. So sad they have to fathom such an adult concept at such a young age. I still remember the time it dawned on me that my mum wasn't going to be here forever, when I was 6, it's still a bloody scary concept. Thanks for sharing such a poignant conversation.Piphttp://www.bubsweatandtears.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-90162469137635395072012-08-21T12:17:35.847+10:002012-08-21T12:17:35.847+10:00Lovely post. I hope your Miss 7 always feels comfo...Lovely post. I hope your Miss 7 always feels comfortable chatting with you about what's troubling her. That's so very precious.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8324093991910698285.post-32448806725635943652012-08-21T11:54:44.967+10:002012-08-21T11:54:44.967+10:00oh wow. Well done you on being able to handle the ...oh wow. Well done you on being able to handle the tough ones so eloquently. We had a similar conversation recently as well after watching the movie Paulie. Not that anyone dies there but to Miss 6 the separation of bird owner and bird was as good as death.<br /><br />Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses #teamibotRhianna https://www.blogger.com/profile/08015224038142499324noreply@blogger.com